Welcome to Pure Jess!
I
decided to start this blog because last year during my senior year of high
school I made the choice to be celibate and save my virginity for marriage. My
reasons for this decision range from my relationship with God to the way that I
have seen sex have negative consequences on other people my age. I thought
about saving myself for a long time before I actually committed to doing it
because I had a lot of doubt in my mind about if I could really accomplish this
goal. It always seemed like something that just isn’t practical or functional
if you plan to be in relationships and date in 2016. But, as I weighed the
different pros and cons I realized that I had to make the best decision for my
life and pursue what I wanted to accomplish unabashed by what the popular
opinion is. Every choice you make as a person will affect your life and nobody
except for ME is going to experience the consequences of my choices, so I
decided that nobody’s opinion should really hinder my choice.
Now
the next question your probably wondering is why this is a public announcement.
Well, believe me when I say the last thing I planned on doing was shouting my
lifestyle choice of celibacy out to the world. However, as I’ve
begun venturing through this journey I have come across so many girls telling
me that they wish they would’ve waited longer to have sex, they got pressured
into a situation trying to keep their boyfriend happy, or even that they WISH
they could wait for marriage and don’t know how. These types of conversations
made me feel like there are actually many girls like me out there in the world
that just need answers that they can apply to their lives. Typically when you
research or try to find answers about waiting for marriage the approaches that
are recommended are one-sided and don’t really mention a lot of practices that
everyday girls can really use while they are in college and high school wanting
to have fun. I definitely can’t say I have all the answers but, I do have a lot
of ideas to contribute to the conversation that I think many girls would find
helpful. And as I share my stories I think we can all grow together.
I have my own beliefs and my own perspectives
and I’m not trying to force anything on someone that doesn’t want to hear it.
But I have the notion that there are actually a lot of girls that are
interested in waiting and should at least hear that they can do it. Many times
when celibacy or abstinence is mentioned nobody takes it seriously so I’m just
standing to stay that it is serious and it can happen. Hopefully this message
and the different tips and stories I’ll be sharing on this page will help a lot
of young women! You have to make the best choice for yourself, but how can you
really decide what you want to do without all the facts?!
By the way, this isn’t a “Virgins Only Page”. This
is for girls trying to move forward in the right direction, and girls that need
to know they don’t have to settle for standards that are set by the society
around them. Living a life of purity goes deeper than whatever you’ve done in
your past and you can move forward and decide to be different. We’re all
growing and growth happens outside of comfort! It’s never too late to take
control of your journey and set boundaries!
Pure Tip: Shake off any fear and doubt, believe in yourself and
just walk forward with whatever you want to accomplish. Any success that comes
will be a result of you never quitting!
God
gave me a purpose and a voice, so I created this platform to share it. It’s
really hard to put my purpose in one post but I hope you have a good idea of
what is to come. Make sure to follow me for more stories and tips! Also feel
free to comment below and leave me questions or things you would like to see on
this page in the future! Thank-you so much for reading!
XOXO Pure Jess
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