What to do on A 1st Date

In the search for Mr. Right we’re all bound to date a few Mr. Never Agains. While you’re doing so it all has to start somewhere....the dreaded first date. To help us navigate through this night effectively I’ve compiled two lists below, one of them is the things that we should definitely expect guys to do on 1st date and the second is what we as girls need to do. Both are important because sometimes people just don’t measure up and you have to keep your eyes peeled for red flags, nobody’s prefect of course but for 2 hours on a first date everyone's best face should be forward. That being said sometimes we set ourselves up for failure or things don’t work out because it’s us. 

Things HE should do:

1.  Picking you up at the door When a guy texts you to come outside or calls you when he’s almost there it’s not very romantic. A date, especially the FIRST date needs to come to the door/your dorm to get you. 
2. Paying for the Date  Being a teenager or being in school is tough, especially monetarily. But on the first date if he asked you to be there he needs to just save his pennies and figure it out. You don’t need to order anything outlandish. It's not necessary to have an appetizer, dessert, and the most expensive entrée just eat what you regularly would. He’ll offer or insist if he really wants you to order something more.
3. Complimenting you The hair, the makeup, the multiple outfit changes we go through and everything else definitely earn a compliment from the person you got ready for. It’s a must for him to acknowledge you. And trust me if he doesn’t say anything you’ll notice (I did, and now I realize the difference it makes)
4. Not Making any Advances In most cases on a first date you don’t really know this person very well, he shouldn’t be going for any cheap feels. No hands should be touching you anywhere... lower back, butt, etc. Although, maybe hand holding depending on how you feel.
5. Extras There are always a few things that guys do that show they've gone the extra mile. All these things have to be taken into account. Definitely "sweat the small stuff" and recognize the little things   
• pulling out a chair
• opening the car door (opening doors is a must! The car door is preferable but I'm counting it as an extra)
• flowers 

Pure tip: If you don’t really know this guy super well then take some precaution. Text your friends where you’re going from your phone or different choice apps like "Glympse" you can send your friends or your parents your exact location. Also if you ever feel unsafe or uncomfortable make sure you have a plan B to get home. (Where I live we call Uber!) It sounds kind of crazy but better safe than sorry. You don’t want to be the next Amber alert just because you wanted a bae.

Things WE should do:

1. If he asks, be Decisive  Sometimes guys ask a question like "Where would you like to go out to eat" or "what movie do you want to watch", even if you are feeling unsure just give an answer. If he's asking then he wants to know and you don't want him to end up picking something that you hate. That'll be a waste of everyone's time. 
2. Dress Modestly Wear something cute, we all want to be attractive of course but if you wear something too revealing and then say you’re waiting for marriage you’re going to leave the guy pretty puzzled. The way a person presents themselves says a lot about them so make sure your clothes aren't sending a message you don't want. What you should wear depends on where you're going.on the date, just always dress 
3. Compliment Him Don’t be afraid to say something sweet, and show gratitude. Girls like compliments and guys like them too. Don’t start praising him but one or two nice comments will be appreciated.
4. Don’t take any Selfies This really applies to both parties. Keep the phone away. Especially on the first date you don’t want to look like your mind is elsewhere or you're bored(even if you are). Hopefully this guy planned this date and spent time getting  ready just like you and he’s even about to pay for you, so give him a chance and leave your phone in your purse.
5. DON'T KISS HIM Nothing worth waiting for is given on the first date. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. A good hug isn’t bad if everything went well and simply making a point to say you had a good time is enough, even texting him later/the next day should suffice. Getting the message across that the date was fun doesn't have to include kissing. 

Comment down below with what you think about these tips a tricks and good luck on your next date ;) I’m not saying that any of these things are deal breakers but you should definitely not forget about them.

XOXO Pure Jess

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